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1. How common is Internet dating these days? What are some reasons people turn to the online dating world versus traditional dating?
Internet dating is more popular than ever right now! In the US alone, there are over 40 million people currently dating online and worldwide the industry has already topped $1.049 Billion! The reason why more and more people are turning to online dating is that it’s simply an easier and more efficient way of meeting potential mates. There is an ever-growing percentage of men and women who just don’t have the time nor the desire to go out and hunt for dates in places like bars and clubs. Online dating makes it easy as all one has to do is turn on their computer, log in, and an endless pool of suitors immediately pops up on his or her screen. Now it’s just a matter of finding a good candidate, emailing them and setting up a first date.
2. Overall, are there more male or female profiles online? Why do you think this is?
It’s actually pretty even. In fact, the latest statistics show the breakdown as about 52% 
males to 48% females on Internet dating sites. So, there are just about the same number of men and women online. The important thing for guys to consider here is that online dating is a numbers game. No matter who you are or where you reside, there is sure to be an abundance of women online in your immediate area. It’s just a matter of being able to reach them. Remember, it’s not always easy to do this and you must be able to stand out, both in your profile and emails if the RIGHT woman is going to see you. This is where I come in. While women have it easy in that they get a lot of men emailing them every day, men don’t have as many opportunities and need to work harder if they are going to get the attention of the more sought after bachelorettes. Statistics show that 10% of online daters leave within the first three months, and this is mostly due to lack of responses from potential mates. Most guys just don’t know how to “play the game” and thus end up frustrated with their online dating efforts.
3. How did you become such an expert at online dating? How do you define “success” in the Internet dating world?
It wasn’t easy; in fact it took me years to figure out how to be more successful at meeting women online. I was always a guy who had a tough time approaching women and asking them out on dates. I did not date much in High School and didn’t go to any high school dances. I knew I needed to figure out a better way to meet women and luckily, online dating started getting huge around the time I graduated from college. My initial efforts were not very successful. I remember when I first posted a profile online. I thought I’d get a flood of emails straight to my inbox right away. I mean, just searching through these dating sites and seeing so many profiles, I figured it only made sense that I’d get a few bites. Well, that didn’t happen. Not only was I ignored but my emails weren’t getting answered either. Clearly something was fundamentally wrong! Then, one day everything changed! After LOTS of trial and error, I finally worked out a formula for attracting what I considered “High Quality” women. It involved using my natural born personality strengths combined with my sense of humor in a way that was both mysterious and intriguing. There are certain things that women CAN’T resist and it’s just a matter of incorporating these ideas into my profiles and emails. It takes a while to get the hang of it, but I believe that just about any guy can learn to be successful with online dating using my strategies. Success is defined differently for each guy, but for me, it means I can go online and know that I can meet attractive women without too much effort. My goal was never to date 10 different women a week or 50 in one month. That’s just not what I’m about. I always value quality over quantity and meeting the RIGHT kind of woman makes it all worth it to me. I know how hard it can be to meet women online when just starting out. Believe me, it WAS frustrating! I know what guys are going through and I want to end their frustrations and help them reach their goals. Meeting the right women is so important in life and I want guys to know they don’t have to be alone and are NEVER destined to be alone! That being said, my main focus is to help guys who are struggling with online dating and get them on the right track. I do that by having them tweak their profiles and emails so they stand out and get attention. These are all strategies, which are fully explained, in my online dating ebook, “Internet Dating Mastery.”
4. Okay, we have to know: What are your three best tips for getting that perfect date?
Well, you may be disappointed in that I won’t be coming up with magic pills or seductive pick up lines to instantly attract the perfect date. That’s because guys don’t need them and they really don’t exist. I do have one bit of advice guys can follow and if they do, they’ll be very successful at meeting women online… and that is to BE YOURSELF! This means be your BEST self. Don’t be afraid to show your confidence and personality. Be comfortable in your own skin and NEVER apologize for who you are and what you desire. Women ALWAYS respect this in a man! Unfortunately, most guys are afraid to just be themselves and instead cater to what they think women want to see in them.
5. Once you’ve attracted that perfect date, what are the biggest keys to keeping the relationship going?
I’m not much of a relationship guru as my specialty is online dating but as a guy who recently got out of a lengthy relationship I will say this… KNOW WHAT YOU WANT!! If you’re in a relationship and things don’t seem to be working, be sure and communicate that to your partner. Life is short and nothing is more important than choosing the right woman for you.
About Christophe: InternetDatingTipsForMen.com
Christophe, author of the book “Internet Dating Mastery,” is a recognized authority on the subject of Internet Dating with over twelve years of experience. His website provides a wealth of informative articles, tips and tactics on everything you’ll ever need to know about online dating.
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