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Don’t Let Holiday Relationship Issues Aggravate Erectile Dysfunction

“It’s the most wonderful time of the year”, they say. At least in Christmas songs. But is it, really? Even if you enjoy the holiday cheer, you may feel more stressed as the year comes to an end. And more stress means more ED issues. How can you minimize holiday stress to avoid erectile problems?

Christmas can be a trying time for couples. So many conflicting priorities, relatives to visit and presents to buy. And if you’re also planning to host a Christmas party this year, now that’s a true challenge!

A vicious (holiday) circle

With all the tension building up, financial pressures and the need to navigate awkward conversations with family members, your ED may become aggravated. This, in turn, may cause more conflicts with your partner. She or he might have been expecting to spend some quality time with you in the bedroom.

If you don’t address these misunderstandings immediately, they will build up and leave you and your partner cranky and unhappy by New Year’s Eve. Luckily, there are ways to prevent the crisis before it hits.

Holiday stress may cause ED

Stress and anxiety cause erectile dysfunction in otherwise healthy guys. Approximately 10-20% of all ED cases are caused by psychological factors.

Most common are:

  • stress
  • anxiety
  • depression
  • guilt
  • self-esteem problems.

Since holidays are such a stressful time for many people, you may actually begin to notice the first signs of erectile dysfunction in that period.

Your plan to avoid holiday stress

The good news is you can reduce holiday-related stress. You just need to come prepared – both individually and as a couple. The key to success is starting early.

Find time to take a relaxed walk with your partner. Or make a date in your favorite coffee shop. This is something you can integrate into your pre-holiday shopping (and you’ll get a break from all the rush at the shopping malls).

Couple planning for the holidays

Take a walk together and talk about your plan for the holidays

Talk about your past holiday experiences. Try to remember if there were any conflicts between you two and why. List three main stress factors for each of you in the holiday period.

If you’re a new couple, discuss your expectations for the holidays together. Think about what typically stresses you out. Try to imagine what might go wrong between you that has to do with Christmas meetings and preparations.

Now, take note of the things you need to make a decision on before the holidays, so you don’t end up arguing at the Christmas table. Agree on those things now. Look for compromise, when possible.

Find ways to prevent stress during the holidays

Go back to your list of stress factors and things that could go wrong and figure out ways to prevent them. Or at least make them less significant. Perhaps deciding on leaving a particular meeting early will save your sanity. Or memorizing three good responses to “trigger” questions to steer a conversation away from difficult topics.

Lastly, schedule alone time as a couple. Yes, holidays are for the family but you deserve to nurture your relationship too. Talk about the possibility of ED getting in the way of your sex life. And prepare to manage it so that you don’t end up without your Viagra supply.

Alone time as a couple during the holidays

Schedule some alone time as a couple during the holidays

Fill your ED medication prescription

If erectile dysfunction is something you have been living with for a while, you know the drill. You most likely realize how stress or anxiety affect your sexual functioning.

In all the holiday rush don’t forget to ask your physician for a refill of ED pills. Double-check or ask your pharmacist about possible interactions with alcohol. After all, holidays are the time of having festive drinks. When in doubt, have a glass of red wine. Research has shown no worrying interactions of Viagra with this alcoholic beverage, as long as you consume it in moderation.

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Anka Grzywacz is a sexologist, reproductive health expert and Certified Sex Coach™. In her online practice she helps busy parents solve their intimate problems.