Everyone could use a sexual pick me up. Check out these tips to revitalize your sex life.
Don’t say, “I’m too tired”
Yes, a long day of work and chasing kids has probably drained 99 percent of your energy, but it’s important to dedicate that last 1 percent of energy you’ve got to your relationship, sex experts say.
“You have to prioritize what’s important,” sex educator Sadie Allison, whose best-selling books include Ride ‘Em Cowgirl! and Tickle Your Fancy says.
“Tired as you might be, it’s OK to just make it a quickie sometimes. Sex is so important to the overall health of your relationship.”
Break the routine
Couples get into a routine and sex can become standard fare. If you’re in a rut, shake it up.
In a new relationship, everything is a novel experience, but that tends to wear off the longer you’re in a relationship, says ob-gyn Renee Horowitz, founder of the Center for Sexual Wellness in Michigan. “Try a different place, a different time, a different position,” she says. Even a small change can make a difference and get both of you interested in sex again.
Don’t let poor self-esteem get in the way
Everyone has something they’d like to change about themselves. Whatever it is that’s keeping you from engaging in sex, you should talk with your partner about it.
“Ultimately, low self-image comes down to not being in love with yourself,” Allison tells WebMD. “And if you don’t love yourself, you’re not going to share yourself with someone else. Short of therapy for poor self-esteem, you can try finding things about yourself that you do like and focus on those sexually.”
Tell your partner what turns you on and what you like about his/her body. By having an honest conversation, you’ll begin to feel more comfortable. If there are deeper issues keeping you from intercourse, consider talking with a sex therapist.