Three Things You Shouldn’t Say to Your Husband
Judy Ford, psychotherapist and author of Every Day Love, says many women are insulting their husbands without even knowing it. To avoid relationship problems she suggests never saying these three things to your hubby:
“You were great in bed.”
You might not want to hurt your husband’s feelings, but you don’t want to lie. Women want to make others feel good, it’s in their nature, but it’s not a good idea to lie about intimacy.
“The definition of intimacy is letting another person see your vulnerabilities,” says Ford. If things are not-so-hot between the sheets, talk about your love life in a positive way. Start by talking about the things you do like and make suggestions to spice things up.
“Please watch the kids, but don’t do (fill in the blank) with them.”
You have to give your husband room to learn and grow as a dad. Your way of parenting isn’t the only way. Plus, if you’re setting more rules for your husband than you do for your child, it could have long-term implications.
“If he always feels like he’s wrong, he’ll only start to disconnect emotionally.”
“You’re just like your father.”
This smart remark is damaging. Your husband will likely believe he is exhibiting the worst qualities of the man who raised him. Don’t belittle your man, just talk with him openly. If he does something that mimics his dad, get to the point without an insult. For example, if your hubby never makes dinner and his father never made dinner, just say, “I’m running a little late from work today, could you help me out by popping a pizza in the oven tonight?” This way you’re getting what you want without the sting of an insult.