If you're struggling with erectile dysfunction (ED), it can feel like your sex life is over. Your nervousness about your erections plagues you for every sexual encounter, and it might even put you off masturbation and self-love.
However, there are many sex toys that men with ED can use to help them live full, exciting sex lives. Whether you have reduced sensitivity, struggle to maintain an erection, or can't get an erection at all, there are sex toys you should incorporate into your sex life.
I'm JC Way from The SexToyCollective, and nine sex toys can help ED!
A lot of guys don't seem to know that male vibrators exist. These unique sex toys use strong vibrations and rhythms to massage the penis without necessarily moving it or "jacking off." It is a brilliant technique for men with ED who need prolonged tactile stimulation to get an erection or feel sexual pleasure.
Male vibrators, like the Fun Factory Manta, can vibrate any part of the penis – from the testicles up to the shaft and the head (or glans). Depending on your preferences, you might want to try massaging different parts of the penis for different orgasmic effects.
Male vibrators best used on the frenulum, also known as the "F-spot." The F spot is the section on the underside of your penis head, which is very sensitive when you stroke it. It's often described as the "male clitoris" due to the high concentration of nerve endings.
If you want to masturbate, but struggle due to arthritis or erection problems, try using a male vibrator on your F-spot. It feels intensely pleasurable, and it's possible to ejaculate by stimulating this area without doing anything else!
If you're trying to have sex as part of a couple, but your ED is making it difficult, why not try a couple's vibrator? Many sex toy companies like We-Vibe make sex toys designed for couples, many of which can be used by men with erectile dysfunction.
If you're struggling to pleasure a female partner, there are clitoris vibrators designed to be worn by a female during penetrative sex to give her extra stimulation and your penis.
Some couples vibrators vibrate both the penis head and the clitoris, giving both partners intense stimulation on top of the feelings produced by sex. Even if you weren't able to get an erection, you could both feel pleasure while kissing passionately, which is fun.
Of course, this applies more to couples where one partner has a clitoris, and the other has a penis. Nonetheless, there are some more sex toys in this article that could apply to same-sex male couples.
While not technically a sex toy, penis pumps are popular sexual health products favored by men with smaller penises, erectile dysfunction, and similar sex issues. There are many different penis pumps on the market, but water-based pumps like the BathMate HydroMax prove to be the most popular.
When you use a penis pump, your penis temporarily increases in size and naturally becomes more erect (because you're forcing blood into that part of your body). After pumping, your erect penis can be up to 1 inch longer for around 12-24 hours before shrinking again, so it's useful if you're looking to satisfy a partner.
Also, penis pumps can give your penis that engorged, veiny, "ready to explode" look if you use them correctly. Some people are really into that aesthetic because it makes the penis look very virile and ready to ejaculate.
If you use penis pumps regularly, you can achieve long-term growth of 1-2 inches in length. Nonetheless, you have to keep pumping regularly to keep the results. It's a bit like going to the gym – your muscles can grow, but you have to keep working out to keep the growth long-term.
Cock rings are brilliant sex toys for guys with ED because they help you keep an erection once you gain one. If you can achieve an erection but have difficulty maintaining it, then a cock ring is an excellent solution because they stop the blood flow from returning to the body, forcing the penis to stay hard.
By wearing a cock ring for sex, you help your erection last longer, you can often last longer in bed, making your orgasms more robust and more intense than unusual. Cock rings are a great way to improve many facets of your sex life without undergoing surgeries or taking pills.
C-rings are quite literally restricting the blood flow in your body, and that's not the kind of thing that you should do for prolonged periods. Try to wear a cock ring for no longer than 20-30 minutes as a maximum. Any longer and you could give yourself severe damage to your cock.
If you get sleepy after sex, be careful to avoid falling asleep with a cock ring on your penis. It's easy to forget that you're wearing one of these men's sex toys once the action is over, but the worst thing you could do is fall asleep with one of the C-rings still on your penis!
If you thought cock rings were good, vibrating cock rings go one better! Great for both solo play and couples play, vibrating cock rings can make it easier to sustain an erection for long periods, last longer in bed, and enjoy intense orgasms as you've never felt before.
The vibrations can send ripples of pleasure throughout your penis' shaft, turning it into a "vibrating penis" for your partner if the vibes are particularly strong. This new movement inside your partner can carry some extra load when you're getting tired during sex.
Many couples cock rings also feature a section designed for a clitoris, so that when your penis is inside her, she can feel intense clitoral stimulation that only adds to her pleasure. If you're looking for a sex toy that can make penis-vagina sex tons better, I'd recommend a vibrating cock ring, whether you have ED or not!
Penis sleeves are like armor for your penis – they're hard sheaths that surround your penis, preserving a hard shape even if your cock is flaccid. Some of them vibrate, but most of them are static—the best ones made from medical-grade silicone, which is body-safe for both you and your partner.
Penis sheaths and cock sleeves are designed with couples' play in mind, though they're more beneficial for your partner than yourself. A lot of penis sleeves will reduce any sensitivity that your cock would otherwise feel when sliding into a bodily orifice, so it's a sex toy that's great if your main focus is pleasing your partner!
Penis extenders are intended to add flaccidly and stretched length to your penis. Many people don't know that these increase erectile function. The good thing is that even if your erectile dysfunction cause problems due to the lack of confidence in the bed, your penis' extra length could give a massive boost to your self-esteem.
Don't worry about losing sensitivity either, as penis extenders are never worn during sex.
Most people don't realize that you can buy strap-ons that are hollow inside, allowing you to put your penis inside and have sex with a partner that pleases them. You might opt for a dildo that is longer or girthier than your real penis, or you might choose one which is similar in size to your erect penis.
If you're not familiar with strap-ons, they usually involve a harness worn around the hips, a dildo which can fit into the harness, and an "O-ring" which holds the dildo in place. Most strap-on harnesses have a universal fit, coming with adjustable straps that can accommodate all body sizes.
It's possible to buy all-in-one strap-on kits that come with all the bits and pieces you need. However, when it comes to hollow strap-ons, you'll probably want to buy all parts separately. Our guide to the best strap-ons has all the information you could need on this topic.
When choosing a hollow dildo to use on your partner, be sure to find one made from body-safe silicone. While it's often a little more expensive, other sex toy materials can be toxic and dangerous for both of you.
Surprisingly, there is zero regulation around sex toy materials in the US!
When it comes to lube, you can't go wrong with a high-quality water-based lubricant. Water-based lubricant is naturally compatible with all sex toys, condoms, and genitals. It's a perfect all-rounder lube if you want to introduce hollow strap-on toys into the bedroom.
Designed more for self-pleasure, prostate massagers allow men to experience intense, toe-curling orgasms like they never have before. Some guys even experience multiple male orgasms from prostate stimulation, which is impossible through regular sex or masturbation.
Companies like Aneros are renowned for making high-quality prostate massager toys that take advantage of the "male G spot" located around 2-3 inches inside the anus. If you're hesitant about anal play – don't worry. Most of these massagers like the Aneros Helix Syn Trident are small and slim.
Prostate massagers are great for men with ED because you receive orgasmic feelings of pleasure without stimulation to your penis. That's right – you can have orgasms without ever touching your penis. The human body is a fantastic thing.
These male sex toys come in vibrating and non-vibrating varieties – the vibrating prostate toys deliver pleasure to your prostate gland directly with vibrations. In contrast, non-vibrating versions rely on you using your pelvic floor and sphincter muscles to move the toy into contact with the prostate.
These prostate toys are also perfect for your health – prostate massage can reduce your risk of prostate cancer, prostatitis, and various other health conditions. Regular prostate massage can become an integral part of self-care, which is right for you and feels excellent.
As someone who's reviewed a few prostate toys in his day, I can confirm I've ejaculated from prostate massage alone about five times in total. So yes, you could ejaculate and experience intense orgasms without even touching your penis – the ED will never have to be an issue.
Many men shy away from prostate play because they perceive anal play as "gay" or "feminine." Believe me when I say that you're missing out on the most insane orgasms of your life. And if you've got ED but want to masturbate, prostate massage could be the perfect win-win solution.
40% of men over 40 struggle with erectile dysfunction, so it's not something that you're going through alone. Nonetheless, with some sex toys, you can reclaim your sex life and start to enjoy masturbation and sex again.
While not all of the sex toys on this list appeal to you, I hope that you find something that makes your sex life more exciting again! We all deserve to have fulfilling sex lives despite whatever medical conditions we may have to endure.