Great lovers are not born; they’re made. One of the best ways to learn about sex is through reading the best sexology books, written by top experts. We’re not talking about porn here, but if you’re allergic to textbooks, don’t worry — there’s nothing boring about these intimate guides! Get started with our 10 best books about sex.
1. “She Comes First” by Ian Kerner, Ph.D.
Are you the guy who always aims to please his lady? You want her to have the best orgasms, but sometimes you’re lost in the complexities of female desire and anatomy? This book will give you the confidence and knowledge you need to make her moan with ecstasy.
Why We Love It
This book was written by a man for men. Kerner can make you laugh and lose the pressure to always perform at top level. He will show you what matters to women and how you can improve your lovemaking skills.
2. “Sexual Intelligence” by Marty Klein, PhD
If you’re looking for a funny, no-nonsense guide to great sex, look no further. Dr. Klein is a couples’ therapist with several decades of experience and a great sense of humor. In this classic book, he lays out the theory of sexual intelligence and teaches couples how to “create the sex that can’t fail.”
Why We Love It
This book is full of real-life advice instead of dry, scientific facts. You will learn about sexual intelligence through the stories of true couples. Dr. Klein makes us question everything we’ve been taught about sex. Sometimes it’s a bitter pill, but he sweetens it with his warm and funny tone.
3. “Beyond Satisfied” by Kenneth Play
He calls himself a sex hacker, and rightfully so. Kenneth doesn’t have a degree in sex therapy, but he knows how to please a woman. What started out as a quest to overcome sexual insecurities turned into a journey of exploration that led him to become a leading sexpert.
Why We Love It
There’s no fluff in this book. It’s all about practical tips that an average guy can implement right away. You will learn moves that will make your lady happy, and you’ll say goodbye to the myths that stand in your way to becoming a skillful lover.
4. “Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot” by Deborah Sundahl
The G-spot is like the holy grail of sex: Everyone’s talking about it, but few have discovered it for themselves. If you’re serious about helping your partner explore her full orgasmic potential, this guide is the right choice. Sundahl is a worldwide authority on the subject. She has years of practical experience teaching women and couples how to find the G-spot and experience female ejaculation.
Why We Love It
This book has a whole section for partners with step-by-step directions to explore the power of G-spot orgasms and female ejaculation. There’s also a chapter on anatomy with diagrams showing the secrets of a woman’s body.
5. “Mating in Captivity” by Esther Perel
When romantic dates are replaced with the monotony of life or the demands of parenting, desire fades. Couples’ therapist Esther Perel examines why we lose libido in long-term relationships and offers inspiration on how to get the spark back.
Why We Love It
Perel has a way with words that makes her books a pleasure to read. Her language is sophisticated and vivid yet easy to follow. She’s a keen observer of American culture and points out how some of its most-valued ideals can be damaging to our sexuality.
6. “Urban Tantra” by Barbara Carrellas
This is a guidebook written for the often-skeptical people of the West looking to deepen intimacy through the Eastern philosophy of tantra. There’s a great section on sensual massage that can help your lover experience next-level orgasms. You’ll find instructions for vulva and penis owners, so everyone will find something of interest.
Why We Love It
What do you do when your partner suggests they want a spiritual connection in the bedroom? Before you panic and start imagining yourself dancing around in hippie clothes, burning incense, and chanting “ohm,” read this book. It gives you concrete exercises to try in the bedroom plus an introduction to tantra that isn’t too esoteric.
7. “Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex” by Joan Price
If you’re nearing (or past) retirement age, you may feel like there’s nothing out there about great sex later in life. We rarely see mature bodies and sensuality in romantic films or magazines. This book breaks the taboo of senior sexuality and gives you concrete tips on how to have a fantastic time in bed at any age.
Why We Love It
The author devotes two chapters to erectile dysfunction, including one from a woman’s perspective. Reading this will give you hope that you can have pleasure (and satisfy your partner) even when your erections are not as reliable as before. There are true stories of men who use Viagra to prove that ED treatments are not as scary as you might think.
8. “Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission” by William Brame, Gloria Brame, and Jon Jacobs
Tired of missionary-style sex every Saturday night? This book will inspire you to explore intimacy beyond the norm. You’ll learn about fetishes and BDSM practices. A word of warning: Some descriptions may be surprising, even shocking to some. Try to keep an open mind and remember that those who enjoy these practices are all consenting adults.
Why We Love It
This book is not afraid to discuss sexual taboos, and it does so in a warm, human tone. Its strength lies in the stories of real people. If your partner has an unusual sexual preference, reading these accounts may give you a better understanding and prompt productive (and even sexy!) discussion.
9. “The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live With Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illness” by Cory Silverberg, Miriam Kaufman and Fran Odette
Who said good sex is only for the healthy and able-bodied? This book proves that you can enjoy intimacy when living with a disability or chronic illness. It’s also a great resource for those whose partners have health challenges.
Why We Love It
This guide is so relatable because every chapter features quotes from people living with disability and chronic illness. It deals with the emotional side of sex and provides tips on anything from managing the side effects of medication to best sexual positions for people with a spine injury.
10. The Penis Book by Aaron Spitz, MD
This book is literally an owner’s manual for the penis. Written by a doctor, it explains the basics of anatomy, erection, and ejaculation. Believe it or not, there’s a lot to learn here — your male member is more complicated than it looks! This book includes chapters devoted to common bedroom problems, such as erectile dysfunction, plus an explanation of how ED pills work.
Why We Love It
This author is a master of explaining embarrassing topics with humor. This book is anything but dry reading! Whether you sleep with men or women, lending this book to your partner can help you both achieve new dimensions of sexy fun.
Start Your Own Intimate Book Club
The best sexology books combine theoretical knowledge with practical exercises in a relatable way. And the best part? The more you practice, the more you’ll benefit, and practice has never been more fun!
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Anka Grzywacz is a sexologist, reproductive health expert and Certified Sex Coach™. In her online practice she helps busy women and couples solve their intimate problems.
